Serenity Place is a gathering of individuals who are or have been in a relationship with a sex addict which is defined as a person suffering with compulsive sexual behaviors.   Everyone who comes to Serenity Place is in a different place.  Some members have years of recovery under their belts.  For others, the pain of betrayal may be only hours old.  Please be respectful and accepting of where your fellow group members are.   We recognize that some folks who come to Serenity Place may be experiencing anger and resentment.  Some members, especially newcomers, may be in a tremendous amount of pain.  We accept that everyone is exactly where they are suppose to be, even if that place is not an entirely comfortable place.  We hope that the Experience, Strength and Hope (ESH) of our membership will allow you to move into the light of peace and serenity.   We see Serenity Place as being no different than life itself in that there will be individuals we will bond with immediately and long term. There may be others we have less in common with.  Belonging to forums like Serenity Place affords us an opportunity to finely tune our skills of acceptance and understanding.  We believe in the power of the Delete Button!  We encourage interactions outside the list and hope that Serenity Place expands your circle of recovery friends. We recognize the need for a safe environment for venting.  We also support learning about sexual addiction so we can make an informed decision about whether to stay in or leave a relationship.  However, we encourage self focus and taking care of ourselves.   No blaming, shaming or "flaming"!  Keep in mind that we cannot point the finger at the other guy without three fingers pointing back at us. No obscenities, implied or otherwise, and we ask that our members avoid sexually explicit language. No gender-based or sex addict bashing.  Many of us are still in relationships with sex addicts.  There are those of us who believe that recovery from sexual addiction is possible.  We have hope for our relationships and our own recovery.   We believe there are no absolutes when it comes to human behavior. Please avoid sweeping generalizations.  We encourage presentation of information related to sexual addiction and co-sex addiction. However, please identify any opinions as that rather than stating an opinion as fact.  Please avoid clinical verbiage.   We recommend using "I" statements and sharing what has worked for you. Please do not give advice. The safety and anonymity of this group is of paramount concern.  You must have, and post from, a private email address that no one other than you can access.  Posts from members are considered confidential and may not be printed out or shared without the express permission of that particular member.   This is not a place to present religious or political views.   The List Administrator reserves the right to place any member on moderated status or to unsubscribe any member who does not adhere to these Guidelines.

There is hope for those of us in relationships with sex addicts.